Category: Co-Parenting

Do We Put Ourselves Before Our Kids More Than We Realize?

Posted by Delaine - October 17, 2012 - Children, Co-Parenting, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms, Surviving
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It’s tough being a single parent.   And in addition to sometimes feeling draining and overwhelming, it can feel “unfair” –  like our parenting responsibilities are stealing precious time and energy from us that we’d  prefer to spend on well…ourselves.  You know – our careers, our social lives, our dating/love life, etc.  “I didn’t sign up to be a […]

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Helicopter Single Parents: Will You Give Your Kids Freer Range?

Posted by Delaine - April 9, 2011 - Co-Parenting, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
young boys on bicycles  Helicopter Single Parents:  Will You Give Your Kids Freer Range?

It happened last weekend.   My eight-year-old son asked if he could bike over to his friend’s place two blocks away. Right away I said no.   What if they got hit by a car?  What if some predator chased them down the residential streets?  I wanted him within eye/ear sight.  Just in case. But when I opened […]

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Critical Guidelines for Divorced and/or Remarried Parents

Posted by Delaine - February 28, 2011 - Blended & Changing Families, Children, Co-Parenting, Dealing with the ex, Parenting, Trying to Get Along
child in between parents divorce guidelines  Critical Guidelines for Divorced and/or Remarried Parents

Written by blended family expert Shirley Cress Dudley. 1- Keep contact to a minimum. One phone call a day is excessive, several text messages a day is extremely excessive. If you have a subject related to the kids, speak briefly and clearly about your expectations. Emails are better than phone calls if your issue is […]

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Parenting After Divorce: Do You Have A Plan for Emergencies?

Posted by Delaine - February 3, 2011 - Co-Parenting, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
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I was at home working when my phone rang – my ex-husband’s number popped up.  Thinking it was my children, I quickly answered. Instead it was my ex. I heard, “We’ve had a bit of an accident.  We’re on our way to get stitches.” “Who’s hurt?”  I asked heart racing. “Janet.”  (My four-year-old daughter)  “She cut open her […]

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Shielding Your Kids From “The Heat” of Divorce

Posted by Delaine - December 28, 2010 - Children, Co-Parenting, Dealing with the ex, Parenting, Surviving, Trying to Get Along
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Studies have shown that it’s the ongoing hostilities between divorcing parents that really emotionally damage and traumatize children.   So how do you protect your children’s emotional well-being if divorce matters are in the Red Zone, the two of you aren’t speaking, and you can’t even stand being in the same building as him/her? You may ‘know’ you should smile and talk civilly and put […]

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Improve Communication With Your Ex-Spouse (BONUS: Avoid Seeing His/Her Face)

Posted by Delaine - January 8, 2010 - Co-Parenting, Dealing with the ex, Parenting, Surviving, Trying to Get Along
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This past week, a divorcing girlfriend told me about ’collaborative software’, something her divorce mediator had recommended. Her and her ex’s parenting schedules are hectic and becoming a source of contention because of miscommunication. Moreover, she’s at the point where she really doesn’t want to see his face or talk to him if she doesn’t […]

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Her Ex-Husband is a Bully – and Her Kids Now Bear the Brunt End of It

Posted by Delaine - September 9, 2009 - Abuse, Children, Co-Parenting, Parenting, Single Dads, Surviving
bully ex divorced mom kids  Her Ex-Husband is a Bully – and Her Kids Now Bear the Brunt End of It

Her ex was at her house doing pick up of their kids the past weekend when it happened. She and her three kids were over at the school yard finishing a quick game of soccer in the snow. Suddenly, her eldest son, now eight, tripped her daughter by accident. “Kyle,” she said to him, “You have to avoid […]

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POWER: A Scary Reason Why Some Exes Bow Out On Time With Their Kids

Posted by Delaine - September 3, 2009 - Abuse, Children, Co-Parenting, Dealing with the ex, Parenting, Surviving, Trying to Get Along
ex abuse power  POWER: A Scary Reason Why Some Exes Bow Out On Time With Their Kids

Does this scenario rings any bells? Sue is the primary caregiver of her two children.  Her ex, Brian, is a part-time dad who pays child support and takes the kids every second weekend and one evening/week.  When they first got separated, Brian was very concerned about his limited access to the kids; he wanted them […]

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Divorced Mom Faces an Emergency

Posted by Delaine - July 28, 2009 - Co-Parenting, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
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I’m writing this at 1 a.m.  and am completely exhausted.  Yesterday evening, the sound of my seven-year-old screaming outside launched me out my front door in my socks.  I ran towards him in the park, heart pounding. “I hit Kyle by accident!” he screamed.  “I hit him in the head with my golf club!” I kept running, my son […]

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Divorced Mom Worries: Can I Properly Celebrate my Sons’ Passage into Manhood?

Posted by Delaine - July 8, 2009 - Co-Parenting, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
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I was sitting around the campfire with my kids and extended family when an ongoing conversation seized my attention: At first, I thought my older brother was organizing a “boys-only” camping trip and inviting my uncle along.    But I quickly learned there was a special mission behind this getaway:  he was planning to celebrate his eldest son’s passage into […]

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