Category: Parenting

Ask Coach Delaine: “Why is my newly-divorced boyfriend retreating from me?”

Posted by Delaine - September 27, 2013 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Fears & Challenges, Healing, Loving & Trusting, Phases/ Stages, Relationships, Single Dads, slideshow divorced man happy or hurting divorce moving on coping
divorcing man help sad angry trying to move on  Ask Coach Delaine: “Why is my newly-divorced boyfriend retreating from me?”

Question: Hello Delaine, I have been happily dating a separated man for the past year as he finished up his divorce.  His divorce was finally finalized last month. They were married for over 20 years and according to him, it wasn’t a good marriage. I’ve noticed, however, that ever since the divorce came through, he’s…

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Do We Put Ourselves Before Our Kids More Than We Realize?

Posted by Delaine - October 17, 2012 - Children, Co-Parenting, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms, Surviving
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It’s tough being a single parent.   And in addition to sometimes feeling draining and overwhelming, it can feel “unfair” —  like our parenting responsibilities are stealing precious time and energy from us that we’d  prefer to spend on well…ourselves.  You know – our careers, our social lives, our dating/love life, etc.  “I didn’t sign up to be a…

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This Fiery Divorced Mom Got Burnt Big Time

Posted by Delaine - November 16, 2011 - Single Moms
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Ohhhhh the irony. Over the past few years since divorcing I’ve dug deep and worked hard to rediscover my passion and ‘fire.’  And I have said countless times, both to my myself and others, that “sometimes playing with fire doesn’t burn us, it awakens us.”  A nice play on a metaphor I’d always thought… But this…

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As A Divorced Mom, I Know It Takes A Community to Raise A Child

Posted by Delaine - June 19, 2011 - Career & Money, Children, Financial Help for Parents, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
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  I never really understood – at a HEART level – what the expression “It takes a community to raise a child” meant.  But now that I’m a divorced single parent, I ‘get it.’ I’ve needed to rely on other people’s help these past few years in raising my three kids:  neighbors, friends, girlfriends’ husbands,…

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I’ll Never Regret Being A Stay-at-Home Mom

Posted by Delaine - June 15, 2011 - Children, Parenting, Single Moms
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There have been many times since I got divorced that I questioned how smart my decision was to be a stay-at-home mom while married.  Cause in leaving the workforce for seven years, I not only left a gap on my professional resume, it left a hole in my self-worth.  And when I divorced, I felt so vulnerable…

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A Good Cry On A Saturday Morning

Posted by Delaine - June 13, 2011 - Grief/ Anger, Phases/ Stages, Time Without Kids
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So I’d planned to spend this morning – this lovely Saturday morning – being super productive and getting work done.  I have two chapters of book edits sitting in my inbox from my developmental editor which I haven’t touched in days.  And I have important errands to run, that can no longer be postponed. It’s…

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Helicopter Single Parents: Will You Give Your Kids Freer Range?

Posted by Delaine - April 9, 2011 - Co-Parenting, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
young boys on bicycles  Helicopter Single Parents:  Will You Give Your Kids Freer Range?

It happened last weekend.   My eight-year-old son asked if he could bike over to his friend’s place two blocks away. Right away I said no.   What if they got hit by a car?  What if some predator chased them down the residential streets?  I wanted him within eye/ear sight.  Just in case. But when I opened…

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The Biggest Mistake I’ve Made Thus Far (Warning: A REAL Disaster!)

Posted by Delaine - March 11, 2011 - Parenting, Single Moms
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Ladies, over the past two years since I began blogging on this site, I’ve been upfront and candid about sharing my Self and life post divorce with you.  And as you well know, my ‘mistakes’ and challenges have traversed virtually every aspect of my life –  dating, sex, divorce legalities, career, single parenting… But today…today I feel compelled to share a biggie…

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Critical Guidelines for Divorced and/or Remarried Parents

Posted by Delaine - February 28, 2011 - Blended & Changing Families, Children, Co-Parenting, Dealing with the ex, Parenting, Trying to Get Along
child in between parents divorce guidelines  Critical Guidelines for Divorced and/or Remarried Parents

Written by blended family expert Shirley Cress Dudley. 1- Keep contact to a minimum. One phone call a day is excessive, several text messages a day is extremely excessive. If you have a subject related to the kids, speak briefly and clearly about your expectations. Emails are better than phone calls if your issue is…

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Do You Love Your Kids more than You Hate Your Ex?

Posted by Delaine - February 18, 2011 - Children, Grief/ Anger, Parenting, Surviving, Trying to Get Along
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Written by Shelley Stiles. During and after our divorce, we all have a strong  desire to protect our children and ensure they are safe and sound.  Most of us are familiar with the well-known strategies for achieving that goal but what it all comes down to is the question: Do you love your kids more than you…

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“So What” If Your Husband’s Gone!

Posted by Delaine - February 5, 2011 - Escaping: Books, Music, Films, Time Without Kids
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Reminding you here today that just cause you’re getting divorced doesn’t mean you have to sit at home listening to sad songs and crying in your tea.  Are you going out tonight? Need to put on some attitude? Then wear it like Pink does – and remember babe, you is divorced not dead!

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Parenting After Divorce: Do You Have A Plan for Emergencies?

Posted by Delaine - February 3, 2011 - Co-Parenting, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms
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I was at home working when my phone rang – my ex-husband’s number popped up.  Thinking it was my children, I quickly answered. Instead it was my ex. I heard, “We’ve had a bit of an accident.  We’re on our way to get stitches.” “Who’s hurt?”  I asked heart racing. “Janet.”  (My four-year-old daughter)  “She cut open her…

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Shielding Your Kids From “The Heat” of Divorce

Posted by Delaine - December 28, 2010 - Children, Co-Parenting, Dealing with the ex, Parenting, Surviving, Trying to Get Along
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Studies have shown that it’s the ongoing hostilities between divorcing parents that really emotionally damage and traumatize children.   So how do you protect your children’s emotional well-being if divorce matters are in the Red Zone, the two of you aren’t speaking, and you can’t even stand being in the same building as him/her? You may ‘know’ you should smile and talk civilly and put…

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Divorced Mom Worries: Can I make this a happy holiday for the kids?

Posted by Delaine - December 25, 2010 - Parenting, Single Moms
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I just finished tucking my three children into bed this fine, Christmas Eve.  They protested the entire time that they’d be awake “all night” cause they’re so excited.  But right now I’m just so happy we shared a lovely evening together.  More than happy, I am relieved.

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How Do You Spend Your Time Without Kids? Pity Party or Private Party?

Posted by Delaine - December 15, 2010 - Parenting, Time Without Kids
divorced mom without kids what to do  How Do You Spend Your Time Without Kids? Pity Party or Private Party?

This afternoon, my former husband picked up our three kids for the weekend. And as they drove away, I shut my front door and smiled. ‘It’s ME time,” I thought contently. “For the next 48 hours, this full-time divorced mom is officially ‘off-duty’ and free as a bird. Whoopee!” I could have gone out with…

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“Time” – Can A Busy Divorced Mom Make it Her Friend?

Posted by Delaine - December 14, 2010 - Career & Money, Parenting, Single Moms
managing time single mom  “Time” – Can A Busy Divorced Mom Make it Her Friend?

“Even if the day was 36 hours long, I still couldn’t accomplish everything I need to do.” “I’m spread so thinly I feel like I’m sucking in every area of my life.” “With three young kids AND working full-time, I never get enough time for ME.”

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The Results of a Divorced Father’s Biting Words

Posted by Delaine - November 23, 2010 - Parenting, Single Dads
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Over the past couple of months, Shelia has been quietly optimistic around her ex-husband’s relationship with their children, particularly their 10-year-old son.  For you see, since this past September he has been taking their kids on sleepovers twice a month – a  HUGE improvement over his ‘maybe’ once- every-four-to-six-weeks track record. He even began volunteering as an assistant coach for…

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“Ex” – An Ugly Little Word?

Posted by Delaine - October 6, 2010 - Dealing with the ex, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms, Social Barriers & Change, Surviving
ex huaband ex wife word ex divorce  “Ex” – An Ugly Little Word?

“EX-husband,”  “EX-wife,”  “The EX.”   The term “ex” is one we all use after divorce, in both our written and oral communications.  It’s something we don’t  give much thought to either – it’s just part of the English language, right?  But have you ever noticed how you feel when say it?   What about when someone ELSE uses it in conversation?  Cause…

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Another Big Life Passage Is Upon This Full-time Divorced Mom

Posted by Delaine - September 28, 2010 - Career & Money, Career Growth & Change, Healing, Identity, Parenting, Phases/ Stages, Single Moms, Strong Mind & Spirit, Time Without Kids
divorce evolution woman1  Another Big Life Passage Is Upon This Full-time Divorced Mom

Three weeks ago, the youngest of my three children started school full time.  And as she disappeared into the school with a brave look on her face, I stood in the school yard waiting for ‘it’ to hit me: sadness…or at least nostalgia.  I’ve been a stay-at-home mom for ten years after all… But I had tears.  No…

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Rocky Balboa’s Got Nothing On Single Moms!

Posted by Delaine - June 29, 2010 - Parenting, Single Moms
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I’m writing this article with the theme song of the movie Rocky playing in my mind.  For at this very moment, I don’t just feel like Delaine The Divorced Mother who raises her three kids 95% of the time on her own with no help.  No no –  I am a champion; my feet are dancing…

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