Category: Social Barriers & Change

When Divorced Girlfriends Offend: Too Quick to Criticize Love & Men?

Posted by Delaine - October 23, 2012 - Fears & Challenges, Loving & Trusting, Making It Work, Midlife Divorce, Relationships, Social Barriers & Change, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
good intentions divorced girlfriends hurt  When Divorced Girlfriends Offend: Too Quick to Criticize Love & Men?

Recently a divorced woman named Sue found herself in a “gross” conversation with her divorced griflriends.  Not “gross” as in the subject matter was lude or disgusting; rather, the conversation left her feeling gross.  For  somehow, her friends’ conversation had shifted to her relationship with her boyfriend —  and as she put it, “It was like…

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Divorced Women: Do You Have a Role Model From A Different Generation?

Posted by Delaine - September 25, 2011 - Midlife Divorce, Social Barriers & Change, Support & Girlfriends
mother daughter divorced1  Divorced Women: Do You Have a Role Model From A Different Generation?

At 66 years old, my mom is a real firecracker. This woman has so much energy, she makes 20 year olds look like slugs.  But much more than that, mom is confident.  She’s generous beyond belief.  She’s sexy.  Has taken great care of herself.  And she spends her days either working 10 hour shifts in the hospital or…

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“The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom”

Posted by Delaine - September 6, 2011 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Infidelity, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, On Writing My Book, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Social Barriers & Change, Strong Mind & Spirit, Women's Sexuality
secret life of a newly single mother delaine moore mars venus coach calgary 300x258  “The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom”

So I’m knee-deep into the publishing process on my upcoming memoir, which is slated for release in Spring 2012. And my publisher, which is the feminist publisher Seal Press, has changed the title of it.  It’s now: The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom. (gulp)….A little more in-your-face than its original title,  “A Woman’s…

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Do We Falsely Idealize Lifetime Married Couples?

Posted by Delaine - July 30, 2011 - Deciding to Stay or Go, Making It Work, Relationships, slideshow, Social Barriers & Change, Surviving marriage lifetime happy or unhappy divorce
marriage lifetime happy or unhappy divorced 300x199  Do We Falsely Idealize Lifetime Married Couples?

Unexpected change is sweeping through the lives of some of my dearest girlfriends these days.  It has arrived wearing the face of divorce or break-up.  As a result, deep and complex conversations around the nature of love, secrecy, and commitment have ensued.  And now, for the first time in my life, I find myself seriously…

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True Love…What it is – REALLY?

Posted by Delaine - January 25, 2011 - Longing...and Learning, Loving & Trusting, Relationships, Social Barriers & Change
true love what is it divorce women contemplate  True Love…What it is – REALLY?

What is true love?  This is a question I bet millions of divorcing people ask themselves, myself included.  After all, we all thought we had it…yet it slipped away. Ever since I was little girl this concept of true love was sold to me everywhere: the movies, TV, church, within my family.  It seemed the most magical thing,  the perfect…

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I Smell A Cheating Husband…You?

Posted by Delaine - November 3, 2010 - Infidelity, Social Barriers & Change, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
smell cheater husband affair1  I Smell A Cheating Husband…You?

This past weekend, a very close friend of mine, Darlene, phoned me in a tizzy. Out of the blue, she had been accused by a girlfriend of having an affair with her husband. And since I’d recently been accused of the same by a neighbor, she wanted help sorting through the drama. Now I believe…

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“Ex” – An Ugly Little Word?

Posted by Delaine - October 6, 2010 - Dealing with the ex, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms, Social Barriers & Change, Surviving
ex huaband ex wife word ex divorce  “Ex” – An Ugly Little Word?

“EX-husband,”  “EX-wife,”  “The EX.”   The term “ex” is one we all use after divorce, in both our written and oral communications.  It’s something we don’t  give much thought to either – it’s just part of the English language, right?  But have you ever noticed how you feel when say it?   What about when someone ELSE uses it in conversation?  Cause…

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Choices or Sacrifices? Which Do Divorced Moms Make?

Posted by Delaine - December 10, 2009 - Career & Money, Career Growth & Change, Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms, Social Barriers & Change
woman clouds smaller  Choices or Sacrifices? Which Do Divorced Moms Make?

Many months ago,  during a deep conversation with my Good Man – a handsome, young widower who continues to restore my faith in men –  we began talking about ’sacrifices’ and ‘choices.’  Or rather, I was rambling on about how I think women make sacrifices when they become wives and mothers – when he cut me off.  “Do you really think of…

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A Shocking Confrontation Proves That The ‘Divorcee’ Stereotype Is Alive & Well

Posted by Delaine - October 8, 2009 - Social Barriers & Change, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
confrontational woman divorcee  A Shocking Confrontation Proves That The ‘Divorcee’ Stereotype Is Alive & Well

I was standing behind my kids’ elementary school, watching my daughter play on the monkey bars, when a neighbor friend suddenly marched up to me. “I need to talk to you, Delaine,” she said seriously. “Sure,” I said concerned; I could tell something was wrong. “What’s up Lori?” “My back is up and I’m feeling…

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Would YOU Go Out To A Bar/Lounge/Dancing By Yourself?

Posted by Delaine - August 11, 2009 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Social Barriers & Change, Time Without Kids, Understanding Men/Women
divorced woman alone bar1 200x300  Would YOU Go Out To A Bar/Lounge/Dancing By Yourself?

This past Saturday night, I found myself wanting to get dressed up and go out, but all of my girlfriends were busy.  I was frustrated; I didn’t want to spend my limited time off without kids watching a movie at home.  But what was the alternative?  Go to a bar lounge by myself?  No way!…

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“HUNG” – A Well-Endowed Divorced Dad Gets Pimped Out?

Posted by Delaine - August 6, 2009 - Escaping: Books, Music, Films, Single Dads, Social Barriers & Change, Surviving
hung divorced dad pimped out TV  “HUNG” – A Well-Endowed Divorced Dad Gets Pimped Out?

If someone created a TV series about a divorced mom who prostituted herself to make ends meet, I sure as heck wouldn’t find it funny. BUT –  what if this same idea was applied to a divorced dad?  One who’s severely down on his luck and thinks his large penis is his ‘Winning Tool.’

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Accepting: Mansions, Holiday Properties & New SUVs are for Un-Divorced Families

Posted by Delaine - July 5, 2009 - Career & Money, Managing Money, Phases/ Stages, Social Barriers & Change, Surviving, Wisdom Gained
dreamstime 9338684 300x199  Accepting: Mansions, Holiday Properties & New SUVs are for Un-Divorced Families

I’m on the other side of Canada as I write this, visiting all my ‘un-divorced’ siblings.  Right now I’m sitting in my older brother’s new house  – a house that is so big, I don’t think I’d know if a bomb went off in the left wing. The other day I visited my younger brother’s house.  And as I…

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DANGER? Living Solo and Becoming ‘Set in Our Ways’ After Divorce

Posted by Delaine - June 12, 2009 - Healing, On being alone, Social Barriers & Change
Living solo  DANGER? Living Solo and Becoming ‘Set in Our Ways’ After Divorce

I’ve always believed it’s healthier to stay single for awhile after divorce verses throwing ourselves into another serious relationship; divorce is a huge life transition and requires time to process. But while lunching with some girlfriends this past weekend, Hali, my best friend warned: “I think people have to be careful not to get too…

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Is It Wrong to Slam Deadbeat Dads on TV?

Posted by Delaine - June 11, 2009 - Children, Parenting, Single Dads, Social Barriers & Change
deadbeat dad effect kids11  Is It Wrong to Slam Deadbeat Dads on TV?

What do you think of the idea of a reality show that exposes fathers who refuse to pay child support?   This is what divorced dad and author Joel Schwartzberg opined on a few days ago in his article, “Is it Wrong to Slam Deadbeat Dads on TV?”  Cause apparently Lifetime TV has announced their intention…

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My Kids Witness Broken Families…And It’s a Positive Thing

Posted by Delaine - June 10, 2009 - Parenting, Single Dads, Single Moms, Social Barriers & Change
kids witness divorce1  My Kids Witness Broken Families…And It’s a Positive Thing

When I was a child, I remember hearing whispers about so-and-so’s parents getting divorced.  All I could think was ‘Oh my God, my friend’s life is over’.  For to be a child of divorce was marked with fear and shame. Fast forward to the present and how my young children perceive divorce:  every second or third friend…

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An Uncomfortable Reality: Secrets, Lies & Hidden Desires Are Everywhere

Posted by Delaine - May 11, 2009 - Healing, Infidelity, Social Barriers & Change, Surviving, Wisdom Gained
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It happened while waiting for my son’s school performance to begin. I was sitting in a packed school auditorium amongst row after row of seemingly devoted parents.     I watched couples sitting side-by-side, some not talking, some holding hands, and the odd mom or dad sitting solo.  Suddenly, the questions began floating through my…

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The Internet – A Quick Way for Wives & Husbands to Cheat

Posted by Delaine - March 22, 2009 - Dating & Sex, Infidelity, Internet Dating, Social Barriers & Change
cheating spouse wife sex1  The Internet – A Quick Way for Wives & Husbands to Cheat

Good Morning America recently featured a report on cheating wives.  And two things about this news-clip stood out for me:  one, how society still ‘gasps’ when its women who are choosing to have affairs.  And two, how the internet is making cheating so easy.  According to adultery expert, Bonnie Weil, an estimated 50-62% of married women cheat.  And admittedly, I…

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30 Years Ago, Would YOU have had the Courage to Divorce?

Posted by Delaine - February 8, 2009 - Social Barriers & Change, Surviving
scared divorced mom  30 Years Ago, Would YOU have had the Courage to Divorce?

In the year 2000, my mom and Dad got divorced. He left my then 57-year-old mom for another woman. But this wasn’t the first time he’d cheated – his philanderings had begun back in the 70s. “Why didn’t leave him way back then?” I recently asked my mom. “Don’t you wish you had?” “Delaine, it…

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Fairytale Endings: Movies Are Programming My Daughter

Posted by Delaine - January 26, 2009 - Parenting, Single Moms, Social Barriers & Change
little girl eyes small  Fairytale Endings: Movies Are Programming My Daughter

My 4-year-old daughter grabbed my cheeks and put her face up to mine.  I was about to give her a quick kiss when she ordered:” NO mom.  You turn your head that way.”  Her hands were still on my cheeks.  Shocked, I sat there wide-eyed as she planted a VERY long kiss on my lips. …

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