Posted by Delaine - December 24, 2009 - Children, Legal Matters, Surviving
I’m not a divorce lawyer. But I’m a divorce expert in my own rite. And now that I’m two years into my divorce, there’s one golden nugget of advice I’d like to pass onto those newly divorcing: Get EVERYTHING down in writing - signed, sealed and wrapped up – otherwise, there’s a good chance you’ll be postponing the inevitable [...]
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Posted by Delaine - December 15, 2009 - Children, Legal Matters, Surviving
This past week, Mother Nature unleashed her winter wrath up here in Calgary, Alberta. We’re talking large dumps of snow and temperatures than hovered between -25 and -40 C (that’s -12 to -40 F). And though I’m accustomed to extreme weather conditions being a born and bred Canuck, something REALLY stood out for me during [...]
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Posted by Delaine - December 3, 2009 - Advice, Grief/ Anger, Healing, Legal Matters, Phases/ Stages, Surviving
Over the past year, most of my divorcing friends have found new partners and seemingly established lovely new lives. And I’ve wondered: Why is it taking longer for me? I mean, I crawled and slashed my way out of Rock Bottom, diligently performed my internal housekeeping, and grew and stretched spiritually in so many positive [...]
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Posted by Delaine - October 19, 2009 - Dealing with the ex, Legal Matters, Surviving
They’ve been apart now for three years. Their divorce only became official a few months ago. And I swear to God, no word of a lie, he has lamented over how broke he is ever since they separated. But the other day, my best friend Hali, now his ex-wife, shocked me by blurting: “Guess who [...]
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Posted by Delaine - March 14, 2009 - Children, Grief/ Anger, Legal Matters, Single Moms, Surviving
A couple of days ago was the perfect example. I returned home from custody mediation with my ex with obviously red, puffy eyes. I came inside my house and immediately went downstairs to my office – I didn’t want my preschool daughter to see my puffy face. But once in the privacy of my office, I sat [...]
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