Category: Legal Matters

Giant Robot Fight: The Contested Litigation Divorce

Posted by Delaine - June 11, 2012 - Legal Matters, Surviving
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By Sloan Carson, Family Law Attorney Without a doubt, some of us going through divorce should be hiring attorneys and sending them to war against each other in a courtroom.  Our marriages are just that bad; there’s simply no middle ground or agreements to be had with our soon-to-be exes. But for the vast majority of us – even some […]

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Changing Your Name After Divorce

Posted by Delaine - July 10, 2011 - Career & Money, Career Growth & Change, Legal Matters, Midlife Divorce, Surviving
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By Certified Credit Counsellor, Suzanne Cramer While changing your name is often not a priority in the throws of a divorce, somewhere along the line you may find you want to change your name. Changing your name marks a new beginning or a return to the former you; it may not only make you feel better, […]

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Fast or Slow: Consider All Options When It Comes to Divorce

Posted by Delaine - June 21, 2011 - Career & Money, Legal Matters, Managing Money
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By I Am Divorced Not Dead’s recommended Certified Credit Counsellor, Suzanne Cramer As I began the journey through my second divorce, I found myself older and wiser than the first time around. I did considerably more research, including knowing my options when it came to the proceedings. With our current economic conditions, everyone is looking to […]

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The Salvation of His Gi-normous Meaty Arms

Posted by Delaine - March 7, 2011 - Legal Matters, Surviving
sleeping arms man divorce  The Salvation of His Gi-normous Meaty Arms

Sometimes I haven’t done a very good job ‘coping’ with the stress of my divorce.  I know we’re suppose to try and make healthy decisions during such times – ie, do yoga, be kind to ourselves, meditate, yada yada yada – but sometimes those options don’t just disinterest me, they annoy the hell out of me; It’s […]

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A Smart, Savy, No BS Girlfriend:We All Need One During Divorce

Posted by Delaine - February 28, 2011 - Legal Matters, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
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Smart.  Well-informed.  A ’no- BS’ kind of dame.  This is the type of  girlfriend I think every divorcing woman needs in her corner as she navigates divorce.  Especially if the divorce has gotten tense…and the ex is a dirty fighter. I don’t think it’s the only kind of friend or support we need; there are those whose primarily listen, those who make us forget, those […]

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Terrible Communication With The Ex: Do you ever wonder, Is It ME?

Posted by Delaine - August 3, 2010 - Dealing with the ex, Legal Matters, Surviving
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Have you ever a conversation with your ex where his position on issues seemed so blatantly wrong, his perception so skewed, that you sat there wondering, “Am I really off so off the mark on this?  Truly, am I too stupid to get it?   Is it ME?” Cause I have; or rather I am.  I think that overall […]

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Legal Action Can Help Mold A Child-Like Ex Into A “Better Man”

Posted by Delaine - March 2, 2010 - Dealing with the ex, Legal Matters, Surviving
divorced dad immature  Legal Action Can Help Mold A Child-Like Ex Into A “Better Man”

Sometimes dealing with an ex can feel like you’re dealing with a child:  you give and give and give….you kindly explain the same thing over and over and over again …yet still they don’t ‘get it.’ And though it’s sad to say - and painful to have to do - sometimes we have to take legal action to […]

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Stop, Hey – What’s That Sound? Unresolved Legal Issues Pulling You Down…

Posted by Delaine - December 24, 2009 - Children, Legal Matters, Surviving
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I’m not a divorce lawyer.  But I’m a divorce expert in my own rite.  And now that I’m two years into my divorce, there’s one golden nugget of advice I’d like to pass onto those newly divorcing:  Get EVERYTHING down in writing - signed, sealed and wrapped up – otherwise, there’s a good chance you’ll be postponing the inevitable […]

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Important Considerations During Divorce: What would happen to your kids IF…?

Posted by Delaine - December 15, 2009 - Children, Legal Matters, Surviving
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This past week, Mother Nature unleashed her winter wrath up here in Calgary, Alberta.  We’re talking large dumps of snow and temperatures than hovered between -25 and -40 C  (that’s -12 to -40 F).  And though I’m accustomed to extreme weather conditions being a born and bred Canuck, something REALLY stood out for me during […]

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You Can’t Rush Your Learning – Even If You’re Convinced You’re Ready

Posted by Delaine - December 3, 2009 - Advice, Grief/ Anger, Healing, Legal Matters, Phases/ Stages, Surviving
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Over the past year, most of my divorcing friends have found new partners and seemingly established lovely new lives. And I’ve wondered: Why is it taking longer for me? I mean, I crawled and slashed my way out of Rock Bottom, diligently performed my internal housekeeping, and grew and stretched spiritually in so many positive […]

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The Ex-Husband May Not Be as Financially Destitute as he Laments…

Posted by Delaine - October 19, 2009 - Dealing with the ex, Legal Matters, Surviving
divorced man buys house  The Ex-Husband May Not Be as Financially Destitute as he Laments…

They’ve been apart now for three years. Their divorce only became official a few months ago. And I swear to God, no word of a lie, he has lamented over how broke he is ever since they separated. But the other day, my best friend Hali, now his ex-wife, shocked me by blurting: “Guess who […]

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Hiding Tears from the Kids: Exhausting…but Necessary

Posted by Delaine - March 14, 2009 - Children, Grief/ Anger, Legal Matters, Single Moms, Surviving
single mom hiding tears1  Hiding Tears from the Kids: Exhausting…but Necessary

A couple of days ago was the perfect example.  I returned home from custody mediation with my ex with obviously red, puffy eyes.  I came inside my house and immediately went downstairs to my office – I didn’t want my preschool daughter to see my puffy face.  But once in the privacy of my office, I sat […]

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