Posted by Delaine - May 11, 2013 - Advice, Grief/ Anger, Infidelity, Phases/ Stages, Relationships, slideshow, Surviving
It was my deepest, darkest secret – something that nourished me, tortured me, yet ultimately tore my family apart: After seven years of marriage, the birth of three kids, and weathering the emotional storm of my husband’s infidelity, I made the choice to have an affair. Now I’m not revealing this today as some kind of [...]
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Posted by Delaine - September 6, 2011 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Infidelity, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, On Writing My Book, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Social Barriers & Change, Strong Mind & Spirit, Women's Sexuality
So I’m knee-deep into the publishing process on my upcoming memoir, which is slated for release in Spring 2012. And my publisher, which is the feminist publisher Seal Press, has changed the title of it. It’s now: The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom. (gulp)….A little more in-your-face than its original title, ”A Woman’s [...]
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Posted by Delaine - September 5, 2011 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Healing, Infidelity, Wisdom Gained
So this is a live, personal photo posted here today folks. That lady with the long hair and the rhinestone bra strap is no other than yours truly. I wish I could show you the face of this urban cowboy I’m passionately kissing here, oh I REALLY wish I could – But I don’t think [...]
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Posted by Delaine - May 30, 2011 - Grief/ Anger, Infidelity, Phases/ Stages, Wisdom Gained
I was thinking about ‘heart break’ this weekend. Not because I’m sad or because I’ve recently been hurt by someone. Rather, it’s cause I made the peaceful realization that I will never again hurt in this life because of a man, as deeply as I did when I discovered my ex-husband was having an affair. I’m not saying I’ve built [...]
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Posted by Delaine - March 22, 2011 - Healing, Infidelity, Surviving, Wisdom Gained
You my not see it. But it’s there… deep within him. It is beyond his admission, beyond his self-awareness. But it’s there, eating away at his soul… His self-loathing. He may seem all blissfully happy-in-love with her; look at that skip in his step. That skips says that he wants nothing more than to ‘get [...]
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Posted by Delaine - January 19, 2011 - Grief/ Anger, Infidelity, Surviving
“Hang tough Delaine – things are going to better. You really are better without him…” Many, many times I heard these words from girlfriends when I found out my ex was cheating. I knew they were right, that at some point things HAD to get better. But while in the throes of my grief, those words felt [...]
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