Category: Grief/ Anger

Men and women are wired differently. They communicate differently, they process information differently, they cope with stress differently AND – they process feelings of grief differently, including those that stem from divorce. On the heels of last week’s video where I explored how women commonly cope with their feelings of loss after divorce, this week I’m [...]

Believe it or not, studies have shown that women and men tend to cope differently with the feelings of loss that stem from divorce.  The scary thing , however, is that both may not even be aware of how they’re suppressing their grief; thus, it can linger for years after divorce, possibly even a lifetime – IF they don’t know what to [...]

Written by Shelley Stiles. During and after our divorce, we all have a strong  desire to protect our children and ensure they are safe and sound.  Most of us are familiar with the well-known strategies for achieving that goal but what it all comes down to is the question: Do you love your kids more than you [...]

Don’t expect to be friends with your ex.  Not at the start anyways.  This is what I wish someone, or many people, had told me at the beginning of my divorce. I’m not saying you should expect to be enemies; no, not at all.  I’m saying you should aim for something in the middle – like a [...]

When Barb contacted me via email last week, she was clearly very upset.  Only six months into her divorce, she’d discovered that her separated husband had a new serious girlfriend; they were even making plans to move in together.  “It’s not that I want him back,” she wrote.  “But it’s such a slap in the face – [...]

“Hang tough Delaine – things are going to better.   You really are better without him…” Many, many times I heard these words from girlfriends when I found out my ex was cheating.  I knew they were right, that at some point things HAD to get better.  But while in the throes of my grief, those words felt [...]