Category: Grief/ Anger

You Can’t Rush Your Learning – Even If You’re Convinced You’re Ready

Posted by Delaine - December 3, 2009 - Advice, Grief/ Anger, Healing, Legal Matters, Phases/ Stages, Surviving
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Over the past year, most of my divorcing friends have found new partners and seemingly established lovely new lives. And I’ve wondered: Why is it taking longer for me? I mean, I crawled and slashed my way out of Rock Bottom, diligently performed my internal housekeeping, and grew and stretched spiritually in so many positive…

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A Divorced Mom’s Prayer: May There Be Angels Beneath The Support Beams of My Life

Posted by Delaine - June 23, 2009 - Grief/ Anger, Surviving
divorced family coping 150x150  A Divorced Mom’s Prayer: May There Be Angels Beneath The Support Beams of My Life

Chaos.  The external components of my life keep shifting…giving way…breaking.  In my mind’s eye I see the support beams of a house built over water, cracking…adjusting…dangling.  Yet I know, I know that that house is ME: my bones, my soul, my reality.  My muscles tense with anger.  I’m gripping, hanging on, protesting.  I am strong,…

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Hiding Tears from the Kids: Exhausting…but Necessary

Posted by Delaine - March 14, 2009 - Children, Grief/ Anger, Legal Matters, Single Moms, Surviving
single mom hiding tears1  Hiding Tears from the Kids: Exhausting…but Necessary

A couple of days ago was the perfect example.  I returned home from custody mediation with my ex with obviously red, puffy eyes.  I came inside my house and immediately went downstairs to my office – I didn’t want my preschool daughter to see my puffy face.  But once in the privacy of my office, I sat…

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Passion, Anger & A BeeBopping Minivan

Posted by Delaine - March 5, 2009 - Grief/ Anger, Surviving
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Wow. OK. So get this:  I’d just spent a half-hour talking to my lawyer around a flaming issue between me and my ex. Under her counsel, I then wrote my ex an email (with shaking hands), and fired it off just in time to race out the door: I had to pick up my daughter…

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Cheating Spouse: Should You Get REVENGE?

Posted by Delaine - January 15, 2009 - Grief/ Anger, Infidelity, Surviving
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Keying his car doors.  Burning his clothes.  Emptying his bank account.  Posting photos/ love letters of his affair all over the internet.  Telling his boss and all his friends…   We’ve all heard the expression “Hell hath no fury like a woman’s scorn.”   Infidelity is one sure way to bring it on.  Betrayal hurts like hell.

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From Little Girl…to Wife…to Divorced Single Mom

Posted by Delaine - January 5, 2009 - Grief/ Anger, Phases/ Stages, Surviving
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 Out of the blue, my aunt emailed me this photo tonight.  I’m not posting it because I want you say I look cute.  I’m showing it because it made me burst out crying.     Look at how innocent I was.  My God, the face of an angel with hair so white.  I keep wondering what I was like back then…but I…

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Divorce Pain: Alone Without Kids for the First Time

Posted by Delaine - December 22, 2008 - Children, Grief/ Anger, Surviving
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“My ex-husband took the kids for the first time this weekend. And my heart is so heavy.”   This message awaited me from a newly-divorcing friend on Facebook this morning.  She was floundering, her free time only reminding her how empty and confused she felt.    I read her message with a tight chest:  I…

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Reflections: I Felt Like a Single Mom While Married, Too

Posted by Delaine - December 20, 2008 - Children, Grief/ Anger, Surviving
winter fence 225x300  Reflections: I Felt Like a Single Mom While Married, Too

I’m not sure why the memories came at me tonight. Perhaps it was the fresh fallen snow and smell in the air that triggered them; Xmas is coming after all. Perhaps it was because my ex moved last weekend to a small town outside Calgary; I know he will now spend even less time with…

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