Category: Wisdom Gained

Not Just A ‘Divorcee’: I’m a Magnficient Women with A Past

Posted by Delaine - January 23, 2012 - Healing, On being alone, Strong Mind & Spirit, Wisdom Gained
000d60aa06df0972913a4e 278x300  Not Just A ‘Divorcee’: I’m a Magnficient Women with A Past

There is a feeling under my skin - one that has risen to the surface over the past few years since my divorce. It tells of love, despair, renewal, and adventure. It comes from marrying, birthing, falling, bleeding, daring, reaching and celebrating. It’s a story – a hard-earned one – that is me, but not all of me: I am becoming a  “A […]

Read More

Colored Blue this Valentine’s Day Season: What to do with Sadness?

Posted by Delaine - January 22, 2012 - Advice, Grief/ Anger, Healing, slideshow, Wisdom Gained
blues valentines day sadness divorce breakup3 300x253  Colored Blue this Valentine’s Day Season: What to do with Sadness?

This Valentine’s Day season is turning out to be a tough one for many of my readers.  Letters are steadily trickling in, speaking of break-ups, heart-ache, sadness, and overwhelm. Everyone is looking for reprieve – to break free of the pain, to feel their smile,  at the very least, to hold onto hope.   I offer up ’tips’ to some readers, suggestions on […]

Read More

Cheating Husband: Screw NOT Telling His Wife!

Posted by Delaine - September 5, 2011 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Healing, Infidelity, Wisdom Gained
delaine moore cheating husbands calgary stampede  Cheating Husband: Screw NOT Telling His Wife!

So this is a live, personal photo posted here today folks.  That lady with the long hair and the rhinestone bra strap is no other than yours truly.  I wish I could show you the face of this urban cowboy I’m passionately kissing here, oh I REALLY wish I could – But I don’t think […]

Read More

Never-Again Heart Break: It’ll NEVER Hurt So Bad Again

Posted by Delaine - May 30, 2011 - Grief/ Anger, Infidelity, Phases/ Stages, Wisdom Gained
never again heart break divorce delaine moore sm 300x263  Never-Again Heart Break: It’ll NEVER Hurt So Bad Again

I was thinking about ‘heart break’ this weekend.  Not because I’m sad or because I’ve recently been hurt by someone. Rather, it’s cause I made the peaceful realization that I will never again hurt in this life because of a man, as deeply as I did when I discovered my ex-husband was having an affair. I’m not saying I’ve built […]

Read More

The “Good Life”: What Does it Mean to You Since Divorcing?

Posted by Delaine - May 17, 2011 - Career & Money, Managing Money, On being alone, Strong Mind & Spirit, Wisdom Gained
divorced woman good life wealth 300x137  The “Good Life”: What Does it Mean to You Since Divorcing?

Anyone looking in on my life when I was married would have thought, ‘Man, now she‘s living the Good Life.”  Cause in addition to having three beautiful children, a lovely home and lots of ‘toys’, we appeared to have a lot of love and wealth; the quintessential family dream come true. When I chose to file for divorce, […]

Read More

The Cheater & His Self-Loathing

Posted by Delaine - March 22, 2011 - Healing, Infidelity, Surviving, Wisdom Gained
cheating man self hate loathing  The Cheater & His Self-Loathing

You my not see it.   But it’s there… deep within him. It is beyond his admission, beyond his self-awareness. But it’s there,  eating away at his soul… His self-loathing. He may seem all blissfully happy-in-love with her; look at that skip in his step. That skips says that he wants nothing more than to ‘get […]

Read More

“Bad Men” Bring Us Tremendous Gifts

Posted by Delaine - January 24, 2011 - Fears & Challenges, Healing, Longing...and Learning, Relationships, Wisdom Gained
bad boy small  “Bad Men” Bring Us Tremendous Gifts

Almost all women at some point in their lives attract a ‘bad man’; some of us marry him. And by ‘bad,’ I’m not simply referring to men who are drug lords, pimps, or wife abusers. No, “bad men” are men who don’ treat us and love us as wonderfully as we deserve. They are, as […]

Read More

Blast From the Past: Reconnecting With A Long-Long-Ago Flame

Posted by Delaine - January 13, 2011 - Healing, Phases/ Stages, Wisdom Gained
divorced woman highschool college boyfriend  Blast From the Past: Reconnecting With A Long-Long-Ago Flame

Recently I flew to my former hometown of Ottawa, Ontario to visit my family.  And while  there, I experienced something that I bet happens to a lot of divorced women and men: I met up for drinks with an old flame – a boyfriend I hadn’t seen in some 15 years.   Meeting with him wasn’t something I’d […]

Read More

“Everything Changes” – Wise Thoughts on Divorce & Relationships

Posted by Delaine - January 11, 2011 - Deciding to Stay or Go, Healing, Surviving, Wisdom Gained
change divorce start over  “Everything Changes” – Wise Thoughts on Divorce & Relationships

Submitted by Shelley Stiles. Relationships.  Why do they change?  So often we find ourselves struggling to maintain a long-term relationship that somehow doesn’t feel as good as it used to.  Our sense of history and loyalty motivate us to do whatever we can to keep that relationship alive.  How do we know when it is […]

Read More

Anger & Mistrust of Men: Have Your Walls Become Your Prison?

Posted by Delaine - January 9, 2011 - Fears & Challenges, Grief/ Anger, Healing, Infidelity, Relationships, Wisdom Gained
divorced woman walls bitterness1  Anger & Mistrust of Men: Have Your Walls Become Your Prison?

Do you ever wonder if divorce and/or infidelity have ‘hardened’ you?  I don’t mean ‘hardened’ as in “made you stronger.”  I mean as in, “encased you in a shell of mistrust and bitterness towards the opposite sex.” Cause that’s what happened to me; I wasn’t even conscious of it at the time.  Truth is, to this day, I still sometimes struggle with […]

Read More

I’m The Primary Shareholder of my Heart

Posted by Delaine - December 21, 2010 - Dating & Sex, Healing, Phases/ Stages, Wisdom Gained, Women's Sexuality
heart shareholder divorced mom 300x225  I’m The Primary Shareholder of my Heart

When it comes to my dating and sex life, my BRAIN now sits in the driver’s seat, NOT my heart. Sound cold? Perhaps. Self-defensive? Could be. But to me, not only does it feel right, it feels empowering. And sometimes I swear I’ve heard my angels say, “Thank GOD she finally got it!” Ever since […]

Read More

Relationships:The Huge Missing Piece I FINALLY Found

Posted by Delaine - February 23, 2010 - Fears & Challenges, Healing, Relationships, Wisdom Gained
relationships dating puzzle piece 199x300  Relationships:The Huge Missing Piece I FINALLY Found

I dare say I’ve had an epiphany in the relationship department; a giant revelation around what I ultimately need.  And though it may seem an obvious component to you, I’m afraid  it’s something I’ve never had before.  And I can’t help but grin cause it came via a most unusual source. Do you remember my Handsome Good Man?  He’s the widower […]

Read More

Divorce & the Transformational Power of Emotional Pain

Posted by Delaine - February 8, 2010 - Grief/ Anger, Healing, Phases/ Stages, Surviving, Wisdom Gained
zzmalouemotion1 150x150  Divorce & the Transformational Power of Emotional Pain

By Guest Writer, Malou I have been living a life short of a fairy tale until that fateful day last year. A job, a wonderful husband, a delightful daughter, a big house complete with a garden, a whole room dedicated just for my clothes and shoes….I was a princess!! The only thing missing was a […]

Read More

Pathways Carved By Sorrow: Working Through Divorce Grief

Posted by Delaine - January 31, 2010 - Grief/ Anger, Healing, Phases/ Stages, Surviving, Wisdom Gained
sorrow sadness divorce  Pathways Carved By Sorrow: Working Through Divorce Grief

I say without shame that over the past two years since divorcing, I’ve felt lows unlike anything I’ve ever felt before.  It wasn’t just because of experiencing infidelity, though that full-body shock and heartbreak was excruciating.  There were also many other kinds of ‘lows’: feelings of emptiness….restlessness… loneliness.  And of course the big one: FEAR. Time and time and time again, I asked […]

Read More