Category: Phases/ Stages

What's It REALLY Like to Have An Affair?

Posted by Delaine - April 11, 2014 - Advice, Grief/ Anger, Infidelity, Phases/ Stages, Relationships, Surviving
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It was my deepest, darkest secret – something that nourished me, tortured me, yet ultimately tore my family apart:  After seven years of marriage, the birth of three kids, and weathering the emotional storm of my husband’s infidelity, I made the choice to have an affair. Now I’m not revealing this today as some kind of […]

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Ask Coach Delaine: “Why is my newly-divorced boyfriend retreating from me?”

Posted by Delaine - September 27, 2013 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Fears & Challenges, Healing, Loving & Trusting, Phases/ Stages, Relationships, Single Dads, slideshow divorced man happy or hurting divorce moving on coping
divorcing man help sad angry trying to move on  Ask Coach Delaine: “Why is my newly-divorced boyfriend retreating from me?”

Question: Hello Delaine, I have been happily dating a separated man for the past year as he finished up his divorce.  His divorce was finally finalized last month. They were married for over 20 years and according to him, it wasn’t a good marriage. I’ve noticed, however, that ever since the divorce came through, he’s […]

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8 Flashing Warning Signs: Dating The Separated Man

Posted by Delaine - April 30, 2013 - Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, Phases/ Stages, Understanding Men/Women
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He says his marriage is long over.  He says he’s ready to date again.  But would it be wise for you – a woman who is ultimately seeking a serious relationship – to throw caution to the wind and dive right in? I’d definitely say, “No way.” Getting involved with a separated man usually comes […]

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The Many Degrees of ‘Man Craziness’: Is It time to Break the Habit?

Posted by Delaine - November 3, 2012 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Longing...and Learning, Phases/ Stages
divorced woman man crazy obsessed delaine moore dating  The Many Degrees of ‘Man Craziness’: Is It time to Break the Habit?

A lot of divorced women – myself included – go through a ‘man crazy’ phase in the aftermath of divorce. By ‘man-crazy’ I mean some part of them is always thinking about, worried about, or eagerly daydreaming about some guy they plan to meet, want to meet, or hope to meet. There are many different […]

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Is Your Dating Mindset SMART or Self-Sabotaging?

Posted by Delaine - February 27, 2012 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, Phases/ Stages, slideshow, Support & Girlfriends, Understanding Men/Women, Women's Sexuality dating help after divorce women
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On the heels of recent  letters I’ve received from divorced women –  many who’d just finished reading my memoir –  it really struck me how we all share many of the same fears and challenges as we attempt to date after divorce:  How do I know I’m ready, how do I handle rejection, how do […]

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“I Love You”: To Say or Not to Say

Posted by Delaine - January 24, 2012 - Fears & Challenges, Longing...and Learning, Loving & Trusting, Phases/ Stages, Relationships
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Thinking back to my twenties, I remember I said the words “I love you” very soon in my relationships with men.  The “love feelings” would overwhelm me: the closeness, the intimacy, the peace of feeling cared for and apart from the rest of the world.  The warmth and power of these feelings would fill my chest, sometimes to the […]

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“I Don’t Need A Man” – I’m Calling BS On This Catch Phrase

Posted by Delaine - September 28, 2011 - Healing, On being alone, Phases/ Stages, Understanding Men/Women
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Over the past three years since I got divorced, it is by far THE most popular statement I’ve heard from women: “I don’t need a man”.  And it’s been said with passion.  Power.  Ownership.  As if it’s been EARNED.   And I’ve heard it all over the place: from dinners with girlfriends…to dating sites…. to here […]

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A Good Cry On A Saturday Morning

Posted by Delaine - June 13, 2011 - Grief/ Anger, Phases/ Stages, Time Without Kids
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So I’d planned to spend this morning – this lovely Saturday morning – being super productive and getting work done.  I have two chapters of book edits sitting in my inbox from my developmental editor which I haven’t touched in days.  And I have important errands to run, that can no longer be postponed. It’s […]

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Never-Again Heart Break: It’ll NEVER Hurt So Bad Again

Posted by Delaine - May 30, 2011 - Grief/ Anger, Infidelity, Phases/ Stages, Wisdom Gained
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I was thinking about ‘heart break’ this weekend.  Not because I’m sad or because I’ve recently been hurt by someone. Rather, it’s cause I made the peaceful realization that I will never again hurt in this life because of a man, as deeply as I did when I discovered my ex-husband was having an affair. I’m not saying I’ve built […]

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Reclaim Your Space after Divorce

Posted by Delaine - March 6, 2011 - Healing, On being alone, Phases/ Stages
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Written by Deborah Moskovitch.   It was a dream-like experience. Upon returning from a weekend away with our children, the bedroom closets were empty—my husband, now my ex, had moved out. He took the fabulous living room furniture that we had purchased not that long ago.  My world was changing. The reality was, I wanted to […]

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My Admiration and Appreciation of Men

Posted by Delaine - February 16, 2011 - Healing, Phases/ Stages, Understanding Men/Women
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It’s happening; I’ve reached a point where I no longer wish to block it.  The ice around my heart is melting…and I’mfeeling my ‘need’ for a man again. It has taken four years of being single to arrive at this place.  It has required I first learn how to be happy on my own.  But now I want […]

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How far should we go to make a relationship work because of great sex?

Posted by Delaine - January 21, 2011 - Deciding to Stay or Go, Healing, Making It Work, Phases/ Stages, Relationships, Surviving
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Contributed by Peter Ehrlich. I’m haunted by my Ex Katherine. Not by that went wrong with our relationship, but what went right with our relationship – our love life. After being laid naked, fetal-positioned, paralyzed, and wanting by our breakup, I want to attempt a sequel with my Ex.  I am willing to work harder […]

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Blast From the Past: Reconnecting With A Long-Long-Ago Flame

Posted by Delaine - January 13, 2011 - Healing, Phases/ Stages, Wisdom Gained
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Recently I flew to my former hometown of Ottawa, Ontario to visit my family.  And while  there, I experienced something that I bet happens to a lot of divorced women and men: I met up for drinks with an old flame – a boyfriend I hadn’t seen in some 15 years.   Meeting with him wasn’t something I’d […]

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Disempowering Marital Sex: Two Divorced Women Reawaken

Posted by Delaine - December 30, 2010 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, Grief/ Anger, Healing, Infidelity, Phases/ Stages, Surviving, Women's Sexuality
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Two years into Sam’s seven-year marriage, she started hating having sex with her now-ex-husband. Sex became something she ‘got over with’ to keep the peace and keep him happy. And he wanted it a lot – every day, if not twice, even though she was oftentimes pregnant, nursing, or up at night with babies/toddlers. On […]

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