Category: Advice

What's It REALLY Like to Have An Affair?

Posted by Delaine - April 11, 2014 - Advice, Grief/ Anger, Infidelity, Phases/ Stages, Relationships, Surviving
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It was my deepest, darkest secret – something that nourished me, tortured me, yet ultimately tore my family apart:  After seven years of marriage, the birth of three kids, and weathering the emotional storm of my husband’s infidelity, I made the choice to have an affair. Now I’m not revealing this today as some kind of […]

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Colored Blue this Valentine’s Day Season: What to do with Sadness?

Posted by Delaine - January 22, 2012 - Advice, Grief/ Anger, Healing, slideshow, Wisdom Gained
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This Valentine’s Day season is turning out to be a tough one for many of my readers.  Letters are steadily trickling in, speaking of break-ups, heart-ache, sadness, and overwhelm. Everyone is looking for reprieve – to break free of the pain, to feel their smile,  at the very least, to hold onto hope.   I offer up ’tips’ to some readers, suggestions on […]

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Coping Tips To Get Through Valentine’s Day

Posted by Delaine - January 15, 2012 - Advice, Grief/ Anger, Healing, Surviving
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I have been through four Valentine’s Days since I got divorced.  And I’ve been all over the map emotionally: sad.  Indifferent.  Self-pitying.  Grumpy (read this from the archives!).  At other times however, I was happy and excited, as I learned to cope with this season of love and romance in new and different ways. Thus […]

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Happy or Hurting? The Face Men Wear During Divorce

Posted by Delaine - May 23, 2011 - Advice, Grief/ Anger, Healing, Surviving
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Men and women are wired differently. They communicate differently, they process information differently, they cope with stress differently AND – they process feelings of grief differently, including those that stem from divorce. On the heels of last week’s video where I explored how women commonly cope with their feelings of loss after divorce, this week I’m […]

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VIDEO – Ladies, Is this how YOU’ve dealt with your grief?

Posted by Delaine - May 15, 2011 - Advice, Grief/ Anger, Healing, On being alone, Surviving
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Believe it or not, studies have shown that women and men tend to cope differently with the feelings of loss that stem from divorce.  The scary thing , however, is that both may not even be aware of how they’re suppressing their grief; thus, it can linger for years after divorce, possibly even a lifetime – IF they don’t know what to […]

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Out of the Divorce Tornado: Free Telesummit This Week

Posted by Delaine - March 23, 2011 - Advice
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I know that many of you, my readers, are new to divorce and feeling overwhelming by the Divorce Tornado, your minds swimming with questions around divorce and children, single parenting, how to date, and most importantly, how to move beyond the insanity. Thus, I wanted to let to let you know about a free, 2-day […]

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Midlife divorce: Blame it on your parents?

Posted by Delaine - January 15, 2011 - Advice, Healing, Midlife Divorce
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Contributed by Deborah Moskovitch . Shannon*, a 48 year old client of mine, recently explained her “aha” moment when discussing the issues behind her impending divorce.  She married her husband because he “completed” her – masking low self-esteem and feelings of not being worthy of love.  It wasn’t until after therapy and introspection that she realized […]

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Resentment: Molten Lava In One’s Bones

Posted by Delaine - December 1, 2010 - Advice, Grief/ Anger, Healing, Surviving
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At three and a half years into my divorce, I no longer feel like I’m mourning my marriage.  The grief, the fear, the heartache of betrayal  - they lie behind me now, serving as sources of strength and wisdom, not pain.  But getting over my marriage is one thing, getting over my ex’s behavior during our divorce is another.  […]

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To Change Or Not To Change The LOCKS After Separating

Posted by Delaine - February 3, 2010 - Advice, Dealing with the ex, On being alone, Support & Girlfriends, Surviving
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Two months into his divorce, Mike returned home early from work one afternoon to a big surprise:  his ex-wife had let herself in and was standing in his living room.   “I needed to come by and pick up a few things,” she said casually.  “I tried calling you earlier.  Didn’t you get my message?  I didn’t think you’d mind…” […]

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Redo and Reclaim The Master Bedroom After Divorce – Why & How

Posted by Delaine - January 12, 2010 - Advice, Healing, On being alone, Phases/ Stages
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Within months of separating from my ex two years ago, I suddenly felt an incredible need to redecorate the master bedroom.   I’m not sure if I did it more as a mental distraction at the time, or if some unconscious part of me knew I needed  to ‘get him out of there” and make a new space […]

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You Can’t Rush Your Learning – Even If You’re Convinced You’re Ready

Posted by Delaine - December 3, 2009 - Advice, Grief/ Anger, Healing, Legal Matters, Phases/ Stages, Surviving
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Over the past year, most of my divorcing friends have found new partners and seemingly established lovely new lives. And I’ve wondered: Why is it taking longer for me? I mean, I crawled and slashed my way out of Rock Bottom, diligently performed my internal housekeeping, and grew and stretched spiritually in so many positive […]

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Dating Advice: You Are Not Your Story

Posted by Delaine - May 27, 2009 - Advice, Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Healing, Wisdom Gained
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A divorced girlfriend of mine was going out on a date – a third date, which rarely happened with her. And as we talked over the phone beforehand, she was almost panicked.“I actually like this man, Delaine. But the timing couldn’t be worse – my life is such a mess, and I don’t want to […]

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Two “Golden Tools” to Help You Mourn & Rebuild After Divorce

Posted by Delaine - March 25, 2009 - Advice, Healing
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Divorce can easily feel like a drawn-out death.  And like an actual death, one must not only go through the grief cycle  (bargaining, denial, anger, depression, acceptance) – one must ALSO begin to rebuild.  So today, due to the number of letters I’ve received from people looking for resources, I’m spotlighting two Golden Tools I […]

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