Eight years ago I abandoned my careers as a writer and cognitive therapist to become a wife and stay-at-home mom. 

My new life appeared to be the family dream – three young kids, a nice home, a loving husband.  No, life wasn’t perfect (particularly in the sex department), but I was content… grateful.  

But last year, at age 37, infidelity and divorce obliterated my identity.  Life as I knew it and dreamt it was gone.  I followed all the rules, I thought lifelessly.  And for what - THIS?

To my absolute shock however, one part of me suddenly came alive: my sexuality.  I wrestled with it hard, trying to push it down.  I was a MOM, after all, and one who conducted herself by high morals and principles. 

But my body wanted what it wanted.  And because my head and heart were too messed up to take charge, I followed it.  Over the next year, my body thrust my life forward, igniting body and soul awakenings, and burning away the undergrowth of who I once was. 

My body-driven awakenings drove me to write my upcoming memoir, A Woman’s Body Never Lies.  It is the story of how I, an every day woman, faced off with my bare-boned Self in the wake of infidelity and divorce.  Only by giving myself permission to explore myself - mind/body/soul, through sexuality, sensuality and ‘promiscuity,’ was I able to shed my old married skin and begin the radical reconstruction a stronger, richer Delaine. 

I’m over a year into my divorce now.  Looking back over my shoulder, I have a new yardstick to measure how far I’ve come and how strong a woman I am; that alone merits celebration.

But the learning continues – the good, the bad, AND the ‘naughty’.  Sometimes I still have bad moments, even bad days, where I feel lost and depressed.  But mmmmm, sometimes it’s as satisfying as a piece of chocolate cake (*wink). 

Even if I don’t know where exactly my life is headed, I know I’ll never suppress my marvellous passionate self to be what someone else wants me to be.  Nor will I settle for a life of mediocrity again.  And I want other divorcing women to know that even though this crisis looks and feels like hell, it is NOT their final destination; it is but a detour of hard-knocks designed to bring them home – to themselves.   

	Delaine gets raw and real about her post-divorce sexual evolution on Cosmo Radio’s “Get in Bed.” (Sirius Satellite)
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