Dating After Divorce: An Indecent, Freaky Or Attractive Proposition

Posted by Delaine - December 16, 2010 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Sexual Issues & Kinks - 14 Comments

So a woman I know received a proposition this week from a man online.  We’re still trying to figure out if we think it’s indecent.  Is it different?  Yes.  Freaky?  Borderline.  Is she considering it?  Hmmmm…kind of.

First I should mention, she’s met him in person already.  He apparently seemed totally normal.  He even seemed smart and kinda funny.  ”What did he look like?” You ask.  Well, let’s just say my friend is smiling.

Here’s the catch.  This large, attractive, intelligent man has an unusual desire: he wants to be her domestic – as in down on his hands and knees, cleaning her toilets and floors and whatever else she wants him to do.  Oh – and he wants to do it for free, whenever she wants, wearing whatever she wants him to wear.  And it’s totally up to her whether she wants to watch him do it, take a nap, talk on the phone, or do whatever, as he scrubs away.

Now I’ve heard of men who enjoy being submissive to women.  (I said ‘heard’, not ‘gone out with.’ ) And I understand that submissiveness can involve a variety of tasks and roles.  And once my friend  got over the initial shock of his offer, her practical side switched into high gear:  she could REALLY use some help with the cleaning when the kids are in school!

He asked:  “Are you sure you won’t feel guilty?  Cause I think most women would feel guilty having a man do the housework for them.  I don’t want you feel indebted to me.  You have to believe that me cleaning your toilets is my role.”

Hmmm.  “I see,” she responded.

“That’s really important to me,”  he said again.  “You can not feel guilty for making me clean your house.  Even if I don’t enjoy it, you’re the boss.  If I don’t do it good enough, you’re entitled to make me redo it until it’s up to your standards.  The terms are yours to decide.”

“I see,”  she said again.  “Hmmmm.”  Then:  “You know, I really don’t think I’d have an issue with it.  If being a domestic is what you need to do to feel good then who am I to judge?”

“I will please you however you want, Ma’am.”

“ANY way I want?” she asked with a smile.

“You’re the boss Ma’am.”

So what do you think?  Do you think she’s crazy to even consider this proposition?  Or would she be crazy NOT to accept?  Would you feel too guilty to even entertain the idea?