He Was “Concerned” About my Body Since I’m A Mom

Posted by Delaine - May 4, 2009 - Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Internet Dating - 5 Comments

We had just started chatting via Instant Messenger. Conversation was flowing nicely. Friendly, polite, he had good spelling (which I look for) .  And THEN…

Then I told him I have three kids.

A pause.

A really long pause.

Then his ‘probing’ began.

It started with comments: “Wow, that must have been hard on your body, eh?

Then: “I dated a mother once. She said it destroyed her breasts.  lol ”

I knew he wasn’t a dad.  I sensed he was really into physical appearance.  And it didn’t take long for his superficality to surface.  What he REALLY wanted to know is if I was loose, saggy, with a big butt and full of stretch marks.

Needless to say, I didn’t meet this guy. Not because I feel insecure about my body cause I don’t. I think my body’s awesome, even with my pregnancy wounds. I just haven’t the patience for men who don’t think women’s bodies are absolutely fantastic – post-partum as well.

Was I offended by his questions and comments? Yes. The feminist in me was pissed. But I’ve been in the dating trenches long enough to know it’s full of shallow, ignorant, little boys too.  

I just chose to roll my eyes and say adios. I haven’t the time for men like him.