Archive: April, 2009

He was sooooo nice.  So very, very nice.  Well-spoken… mature… a fun personality.  And I really did enjoy talking to him.  But I felt no spark;  I just wasn’t attracted to him.  Not just physically, but energetically. He wanted to meet me for a second date.  I really didnt want to…but again, I went over his very nice qualities.  “He’s [...]

I recently received a letter from a woman in doldrums over this situation.  She’d dated a man a few times and their mutual attraction was nearing detonation.  But the ‘first-time’ hurdle still lay on her horizon – she hadn’t slept with anyone since she got separated.  Anxiety, excitement, fear… the next step would be a BIG one.  But low and behold, [...]

  We hear about it all the time – this thing called “balance.” We’re told it’s something we all need and should strive for.  And if we’d just get our acts together, devote the time to properly mastering the art of juggling, we’d acheive it too. But you know what I’ve never understood?  How it is [...]

According to my best friend Hali, I do.   Disqualify men too quickly, that is. Over drinks this past weekend, I was telling her about my dating life, when she quickly inserted: “Ummm Delaine…what dating life?” I laughed, rather taken aback. “What do you mean? You know I’m still on a couple of dating sites.”

I wasn’t looking for him. He was totally unplanned. But our emails progressed so quickly – naturally – that now, one month into our daily correspondence, his purpose in my life has emerged:   The universe deliberately brought me a Good Man. Not to be my partner, nor champion of life dreams. But to help [...]

A newly-divorcing woman wrote me this weekend to say she’d begun internet dating after 10 years of marriage.  “But I don’t get this cyber sex thing,” she said.  “It seems like many men are looking for it.  And in all honesty, I’ve been tempted.  Have YOU had cyber sex Delaine?” Well (clearing throat), even though [...]