Good-bye Husband, Hello G-SPOT!
By the end of her marriage, she’d given up trying to have a G-spot orgasm; she thought maybe anatomically she wasn’t capable of one. But one night post divorce, that G-bomb came out of nowhere: KA-POWEE. It was a back-arching, sould-screaming, ‘Hallelujah!’
Afterwards however, she was freaked out – AND embarrassed. Cause it happened with a divorced man she hardly knew.
Why Him? she wondered. More importantly, why NOW? Why hadn’t it happened with her husband, someone she loved, or at least someone she’d dated more than twice?
She figured age was a contributing factor; she was closing in on forty after all. Or maybe it happened because she’d had kids; perhaps something got shook loose in her uterus during childbirth? Or maybe, just maybe, it was because she was more in tune with my body. But that made no sense whatsoever – she was still reeling from her ex’s infidelity when it happened, not eating, not sleeping, not exercising…
But then a new thought zoomed in for landing: “Maybe the why didn’t matter. It happened when it happened just because she was ready. Maybe she was simply meant to experience it for the ecstatic pleasure it gave her – period.”
All she knew for sure was that her body’s new talent thrilled her. If she’d remained married, where, by the end, her sexuality felt confined behind cold bars, she’d never have experienced anything close to this. Moreover, the timing of it suggested that there was more to her, more to her body, more to life than she’d ever imagined. What else what might life post-divorce unleash in her…and what might life post-divorce unleash in YOU?
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A fascinating description – I will have to give it a try. I’ve tried to find mine for over 20 years and wonder if I just can’t have one! But this gives me new hope. It’s isnpirational too. Makes me wonder what ‘gems’ I might discover about my body after divoce too – thanks!
yes i found mine to after divorce too lol it was so mind blowing when i had my first one ive since learnt how to do it myself so if a guy doesnt no how to do it i can teach him coz i never want to go without it again ive since discovered they is sites where u can be taught how to do it ,shame i never knew about it years ago lol
They have a wide array of sexual toys these days for G spot stimulation that work great !!!
If anyone ever wants some advisement on them let me know .I too found the wonders of the g spot after my first marriage that lack majorly in the sex department. It let me feeling bad about myself as a woman .I have totally come around at this point did marry again and I am 100% comfortable with my sexuality..Life does go on.I promise and it gets better.
Christine
Still haven’t found mine but your storu gives me hope LOL.
m – well I’m jealous you can you do it for yourself cause I’m still not there *grin. The next time (if there ever is one) I meet him I’m going to get more technique details!
Delaine
I had the pleasure of being with a woman (after my marriage of 15 years) and finding her spot. She had never released any amount of fluids before during an orgasm and was embarassed as well. From then on we had to watch where we were because it happended every time from then on. Why couldn’t I ever achieve that with my ex? Who knows.
I remember my first G-spot orgasm. It was post divorce.
It was liberating in two ways.
To know that my body had the ability to offer up such pleasure was a great discovery and to be with a man who was interested enough in my body to teach me what it had to offer was so foreign to me.
I had spent so many years with a man who had no interest in his or my sexuality. I had began to believe I was odd for thinking there had to be more.
I have to admit to not questioning why it had happened. Just being darn glad it had!
Oh I’m blushing! If I’ve had a g-spot orgasm I guess I don’t know it. How can a woman be sure whether she has or not?
Nan, I used to question if I’d had one before too. To which a few of girfriends always responded: “Delaine – you’ll KNOW when you have one.”
Now that I’ve been there, I see my friends were right. It was intense and came from a surging, pulsating place inside me. Wayyyy different than the clitoral orgasms I’d known. Some women I know release lots of fluid during G-spot orgasm too – an easy ‘indicator’ – but many don’t.
I have to admit that this guy I was with was a superb lover – of the “knock-your-socks-off” kind. He did a ‘a manoeuvre on me no man had done to me before. I don’t know if it’ll work for other women but…
Delaine
Ok, my dear woman, I have to tell you that I discovered that little jewel when I was a Senior in College. Yep, that early. I was an early bloomer of sorts, and had become very comfortable with clitoral orgasm, but, finding out about that lovely G-spot did rock my world. Are not our women bodies fabulous in so many ways! Wanda
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Since my divorce i haven’t found a guy who can last more than a minute let alone give any kind of orgasm. I would be happy with just a litorial orgasm but I dont even get that ( unless i do it myself). I dont think I have a g-spot really. I usually have no feeling at all. Oh well i am use to it. It makes easier to be single. Because i dont know what I am missing.
I only experienced one g-spot orgasm with my first husband and he thought I pissed on him. He was angry and obviously it was his first experience as well. Needless to say, I felt as though I was holding back the rest of our marriage and longed to experience that again. When I married my second husband the entire world seemed to open up. Practically every time we were together it was magical.
Well, I am single again after 21 years of combined marriages and I find that I am not holding back or cheating myself out of my own pleasures any more. I am enjoying sex so much more whether it is with a partner or not. I know a lot has to do with our experiences, but it also has to do with how we accept ourselves and knowing our own body. I have learned to take care of me first by teaching my partner what I need and everything else seems to fall into place. ~ Life is good.
Donna, thanks for sharing! There’s something to be said for knowing that one’s orgasms and pleasure aren’t contingent on one man’s sexual prowess: ) The sad thing is that we are discouraged, as women, to explore it while we are single, which is turn puts pressure on our husbands, many of whom don’t have a clue, to unlock the mysteries of our bodies. I think both men and women would end up being a lot happier if women were ‘allowed’ to explore and learn about their sexuality before saying I do.