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The topic of men’s penis size was brought to my attention YET AGAIN this morning in an article on Fox.com: a new study revealed that French men need the largest condoms in Europe while Greeks get by on the small ones. This study by a German consultancy asked 10,500 men in 25 countries to measure and report their penis.
Hmmmm. I don’t think I’ll look at Frenchmen the same again. *grin.
After being married to the same man for so many years, I was surprised when I started dating/having sex after divorce as to the size difference in men. Particularly when my first lover, who was 6ft 4 and 240 lbs, had a penis the length of my thumb.
Since then, I’ve had a few other lovers. And what did they have in common? Why almost all of them had very small penises! My girlfriends found it hilarious, and, amidst giggles, told me I needed to cut out a picture of a big penis and put it on my Vision Board.
Now I know a man can’t control his length or girth, just as women can’t decide their breast size. But for the first time in my life, I found myself examining and judging a man’s tackle; I hadn’t realized they varied so much. Prior to being married, I was so preoccupied with the emotional side of sex and making them like me, I never gave pause to second-guess or admire their equipment. Nor had I ever entertained the idea of having a ‘preference.’
Oh women are such polite creatures - I know some of you are probably frowning, thinking how DARE I come out and state such things. Especially since I’m a divorced mom.
But I honestly can’t say I’ve ever, while getting naked with a man for the first time, stood there hoping, “PLEASE have a small penis. Oh, PLEASE have a small penis.”
I used to say penis size didn’t matter. But I also didn’t have a real basis for comparison - my sexual experiences were too limited; my emotional entanglement and my own insecurities were too great.
But my sexuality is evolving - in part because I’ve given myself permission to explore my sexuality at this stage post-divorce and to learn about myself through each well-thought-out experience. And in my books, ANY kind of ‘evolution’ requires time AND experience.
And so, with my reputation at risk, but my Self intact, I climb to the top of the mountain and scream to World Wide Web: I LOVE AN AVERAGE TO LARGER, THICKER PENIS! And in case there are any French men having a read: J’aime un pénis plus grand, plus épais!
(’Fly’ photo by Stephan Wagner)
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This post had me laughing out loud. Good for you for saying what you like! And why not? Men have been saying out loud they like big boobs or nice butts or whatever and we’ve silently stood by and took it. Worst still, we’ve beaten ourselves up for it if we didn’t FIT that model.
I’m with you - tiny penises ARE disappointing. I had one case where his condom fell off because it was so small! I tried to pretend it was no big deal, but man, inside I was thinking “Oh for GOD’s Sake! This guy will NEVER do the job!”
I have to agree it does matter for me girth has more importance then length. I believe the vaginal canal is between 3 or 4 inches long so lets face it there is only so far it can go .During my single time between my marriages I have to say that’s when I realized there is a difference. Yes some of it has to do with the difference in emotions . We are looking for pleasure not love .This is not to say there are not men out there that are smaller endowed that I am sure are wonderful lovers but size does matter .
Christine
I take this blog in the spirit in which it was written - I can see that if a man wrote something about breast size it would be fine, but something about penis size would seem unethical.
We need to laugh about this stuff. We should talk about it and have an opinion! We cam have preferces too!
I too laughed when I read your article however I have always screamed that penis size matters! And I have never been ashamed to say it. Of course, it is not lady like to think such things, you might hurt HIS feelings, you might make HIM feel bad and insecure, you might make HIM…wait! What the Hell about ME?! Scream it loud and proud ladies, and if you are lucky you just get to SCREAM!