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What's It REALLY Like to Have An Affair?

Posted by Delaine - April 11, 2014 - Advice, Grief/ Anger, Infidelity, Phases/ Stages, Relationships, Surviving
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It was my deepest, darkest secret – something that nourished me, tortured me, yet ultimately tore my family apart:  After seven years of marriage, the birth of three kids, and weathering the emotional storm of my husband’s infidelity, I made the choice to have an affair. Now I’m not revealing this today as some kind of […]

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Talking Dating & Sex After Divorce on CTV's The Social

Posted by Delaine - April 3, 2014 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, Internet Dating, Longing...and Learning, Women's Sexuality
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I had the amazing opportunity on April 2 to go on CTV’s daytime talk show, The Social, to talk about the challenging world of dating and sex after divorce. I can’t embed it yet here, cause it’s not yet uploaded to YouTube. But at the very least, I want to provide you with the link […]

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FROM THE ARCHIVES: Does Penis Size Matter?

Posted by ekzact_team - February 13, 2014 - Dating & Sex, Sex
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(From July, 2010.  Year Two post-divorce) The topic of men’s penis size was brought to my attention YET AGAIN this morning in an article on Fox.com: A new study revealed that French men need the largest condoms in Europe while Greeks get by on the small ones. This study by a German consultancy asked 10,500 men […]

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Thoughts on the “Next Serious Relationship” After Divorce

Posted by Delaine - November 10, 2013 - Blended & Changing Families, Fears & Challenges, Loving & Trusting, Making It Work, Relationships
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The title of this blog may be a bit misleading.  Cause I don’t want to talk in a professional  tone or way about the “next serious relationship” after divorce.  I want to talk about mine. That’s right.  MY next serious relationship.  I had one for over 18 months.  And I never told you anything about […]

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When Men Quickly “Replace” After Separation or Divorce

Posted by Delaine - September 11, 2013 - Dealing with the ex, Fears & Challenges, Grief/ Anger, Loving & Trusting, Relationships, Surviving, Understanding Men/Women
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When Barb contacted me via email last week, she was clearly very upset.  Only six months into her divorce, she’d discovered that her separated husband had a new serious girlfriend; they were even making plans to move in together.  “It’s not that I want him back,” she wrote.  “But it’s such a slap in the face – […]

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Be SMART: Qualities to Look For in a REAL Dominant

Posted by Delaine - August 30, 2013 - Dating & Sex, Loving & Trusting, Relationships, Sex, Sexual Issues & Kinks
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Ever since Fifty Shades of Grey became so popular, many women — single, separated and divorced — have decided they want to find their own sexual Dominant or “Christian Grey”. But as most of you know, I’ve had first-hand experience with Dominants and D/s –  and I want you all to know that if this is […]

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Financial Domination: An Unusual Fetish on the Fringes of BDSM

Posted by Delaine - August 30, 2013 - Dating & Sex, From the Dating Trenches, Sexual Issues & Kinks
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My girlfriend Deanne was messaging a younger man from a dating website this week, when out of the blue, he hit her with an “unusual” request: “Every month I’d like to give you money,“ he wrote.  “You can spend it on yourself or any way you want.  We can start out with small sums but maybe eventually get […]

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20 Relationship Insights From A Divorced Man

Posted by Delaine - August 19, 2013 - Fears & Challenges, Loving & Trusting, Making It Work, Relationships, Sex
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Contributed by Gerald Rogers Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert. But there’s something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different.  After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here’s the advice I wish I would have […]

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Is Women’s Sexual Desire Wired For Monogamy?

Posted by Delaine - July 27, 2013 - Between the Sheets, Dating & Sex, Relationships, Sex
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I sometimes worried there was something *wrong* with me – sexually, that is. Cause at some point, during every healthy serious relationship I was involved in, my sexual desire levels severely plummeted. And try as I did to restore them, using all the expert advice I could get my hands on through books, my efforts proved as futile as […]

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Travelling Spouse: Avoid the Pitfalls That Can Result in Divorce

Posted by Delaine - July 14, 2013 - Fears & Challenges, Making It Work, Relationships
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My ex-husband travelled a lot for work when we married.  He was gone about 70 – 80% of the time. And the circumstances we faced were tough.  Not just because we had three kids in three years so our marriage had the stresses of young kids to adjust to.  But because neither of us knew […]

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10 Online Dating Profile Turn-offs to Women

Posted by Delaine - July 6, 2013 - Dating & Sex, Internet Dating, Understanding Men/Women
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For those of you men reading, who are single and internet dating, I need to ask: Do most women not respond to your emails? Are you attracting the “wrong kind” of woman? Are you scratching your head, wishing you understood what the heck women online are looking for? If you answered “yes” to any of […]

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8 Flashing Warning Signs: Dating The Separated Man

Posted by Delaine - April 30, 2013 - Concerns & Fears, Cougars & Single Moms, Dating & Sex, Phases/ Stages, Understanding Men/Women
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He says his marriage is long over.  He says he’s ready to date again.  But would it be wise for you – a woman who is ultimately seeking a serious relationship – to throw caution to the wind and dive right in? I’d definitely say, “No way.” Getting involved with a separated man usually comes […]

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Are You And Casual Sex A Good Fit Right Now?

Posted by Delaine - April 29, 2013 - Between the Sheets, Concerns & Fears, Dating & Sex, Sexual Issues & Kinks, Women's Sexuality
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So right now, even the idea of entering a serious relationship may be enough to make you shudder — you just know you aren’t ready. At the same time, however, your hormones might be screaming loud and strong:  Give me sex, I want sex, I need sex sex sex! But is casual sex something you really want to […]

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Why You Need to SLOOOOOW Down That Next Relationship

Posted by Delaine - February 26, 2013 - Fears & Challenges, Longing...and Learning, Relationships
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There’s a natural progression to relationships and it usually looks something like this: we date, we sleep over at each other’s houses more and more frequently, we move in together, we get married. Oftentimes, we look at moving in together/getting married stage as the ultimate ideal – lives are completely integrated.  And we often assume that the quicker we get there, the […]

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